Now that I’m in my third pregnancy, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about the birth of my son and daughter. We reflect, and we learn in the hope our next childbirth experience will build on what has gone before.
I have been fortunate that neither of my previous deliveries were negative. They were very similar in some respects, but not all women experience similar deliveries.
My son was born in 1997, I was 22 years old, and I was free from fear. I made a conscience decision during my pregnancy not to attend antenatal classes, or seek out information relating to childbirth. I figured what I did not know, could not hurt me or hurt during labour! I did not listen to stories of other people’s experiences, and the net was not a feature on my radar, or anyone else’s for that matter.
Looking back at it now, I think I did myself a huge favour. If you follow the hynobirthing technique, it promotes the idea that fear induces pain and that relaxation is the key to a calm birthing experience. I’m rapidly coming to the conclusion there might just be something in that. Hynobirthing wasn’t even a concept when I had my son, but I think that by consciously avoiding society’s messages about labour and childbirth, I might just have saved myself and my baby a whole heap of pain and trauma.
My son was born in hospital, with very little intervention, and minimal pain relief. He was born within 2 hours of reaching hospital, and I found that staying on my feet and using nature’s gravity was the best approach for me.
I was overwhelmed seeing him for the first time, just how could you love this little person so much! I was equally as overwhelmed by the fact I could get of the bed and walk about pretty much like nothing had happened! I was expecting to be laid up for at least a week. I guess that might have had as much to do with my age, as a natural labour. Somethings I know I’m not going to get this time around.
I will be avoiding negative energies, ideas and stories. I’ll focus on being as relaxed as possible exhausting every available you tube video and podcast to help with breathing and visualisation. If the midwife offers aromatherapy oils, I’ll take it! Birthing pool, I’m open to it, but wouldn’t pin my hopes on it.
I hope for a safe and positive experience for me and my baby pre, during, and post labour. I’m very much looking forward to writing my birthing plan so that I can have confidence that everyone around me understands the experience I wish to have, while I get on with the important stuff.
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